Feeling encouraged in today’s social media culture: An observation

What do you do if you feel discouraged?  

Do you find something or someone to encourage you?  I think nothing important that’s worth having or doing is ever truly easy. We live in an age of the easy, with instant gratification on many social media platforms. We click and press like and wait for others to also approve what we post. You can easily find 100 people to instantly agree with you.  You can get rich instantly, be famous instantly, or get 1,000,000 likes to boost your ego. Equally, one will also find a few nasty apples in the bunch who make it their mission to troll the internet looking for victims. These people deliberately sow seeds of doubt. They often do it in anonymity but equally vile, they actually believe their own lies.  

I don’t think the human psyche was designed to have instant gratification all the time or being bombarded by mass hate from people you don’t even know.  I am by no means an expert on psychology and I don’t pretend to be privy to anyone’s thoughts, but it seems we have enough problems without thinking one’s value comes from outside yourself.

I read something online recently on the power of positivity.  It’s about not allowing other people to use you as an option in passing. The posting goes on to say if they don’t miss you in your absence then they don’t deserve your presence.   It’s really true I think. If you allow your brain to be clouded by other people’s actions or inactions towards you then you are in fact living in the very way you probably tell yourself you hate. In essence, you are no better than the person or persons who are the cause of the perceived problem. You, in my humble opinion, will treat yourself the way they treat you, that is, without thought or feeling.  

Do you really have 800 friends as your Social media page states, are they truly your friends? Why allow others to share in your life, use your knowledge or your compassion or empathy the same way they use tissue paper to wipe their noses or their asses?  When they finish they will just toss the tissue in the trash or flush it down the toilet. Sounds cynical I know, but in this same way, they toss your friendship in the trash each time you wait for someone to click like. Maybe you feel they disregard your feelings or your presence.   Newsflash, guess what? They are not really your friend. Friends watch out for each other and actively stay in touch. Be strong, don’t be desperate for friendships which are not worth your time. Don’t be lured in by false friendships, it’s your own fault and undoing if you do. You tell yourself that you are not special, but oh yes you are special!  The trick is to finally start treating yourself as If you are special, you are strong and invincible. Don’t count on others to do what you need to do for yourself. Be mindful, be specific, be encouraged. Replace weak thoughts with strong happy ones. By all means, fake it until you make it. I am all for the use of social media but please be aware of consequences, repercussions and above all be responsible for your own actions towards others and most of all to yourself.